Does Facebook stress you or help you relax?
Facebook favors selective attention. I enjoy looking at (and forwarding) blissful pictures, motivational quotes, and funny sayings. While I often read without commenting, I also enjoy being able to take a short break and get caught up with what friends and acquaintances are doing.
I have a strict “no haters” rule on my page. I consider my profile page to be part of my public persona as an author and a business person, so I will accept friend requests from anybody who asks (so long as they post in English). But…posting something hateful will get a person de-friended and their posts removed. I don’t need to look at that kind of stuff, and I certainly don’t need to be party to sharing it.
Likewise, I stay out of contentious debates. I have plenty of opinions on topics, but the world really doesn’t care what I think (and if you do, you can read my books). Too many comments devolve into useless quibbles. Don’t harsh my mellow! If it’s an occasional debate I’ll overlook it, but if someone frequently posts contentious items, it’s a guaranteed way to get de-friended, or at least, hidden.
When I participate on Facebook, I try to share information that will educate, empower or inspire, and occasionally, make you laugh. That’s my tiny contribution in a world that needs a whole lot more knowledge, empowerment, inspiration and laughter. I am grateful for the amazing ability to use technology that enables me to touch a global audience, and I have set my intentions to
I limit my time on Facebook to first thing in the morning (to post those success thoughts), and occasionally during the day when I need a 5 minute mental vacation. If you know you can’t go out to Facebook for just 5 minutes, then wait until evening. If you have difficulty staying focused on business at the beginning of the workday, make a to-do list with one or two action items related to business, go out on Facebook and do them, and then log off. And if it’s too distracting to get email updates when people post on your page, disable the emails so you have to go out and look.
Facebook can be a good business tool and a fun part of your social life, but it shouldn’t add to your stress. Try these ideas to help you get into Facebook’s more relaxing qualities, and have fun!