Are you a Positive or Negative Thinker?

by Faith Monson
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Do your friends and family call you a pessimist, when you swear you’re just being “realistic”?  Are you known for your sunny outlook and the conviction that, like Annie, the “sun will come up tomorrow”?

Sometimes it’s difficult to tell whether you’re a positive or negative thinker because it’s hard to know, “compared to what?”  Here’s a quiz to help you know whether you tend to see the bright side or focus overly on the things that could go wrong.  Each question requires a yes/no answer.

  1. Are people drawn to you because of your upbeat energy?
  2. Do you feel anxious, as if you’re always waiting for the “other shoe” to drop?
  3. Can you see an opportunity in nearly every situation?
  4. Do you have a long memory for your mistakes, but barely remember your wins?
  5. Do setbacks fuel your creativity?
  6. Is it difficult for you to regroup and move forward when there is change involved?
  7. Do you get energized by reviewing your most recent successes?
  8. When things change, do you see new looming disasters rather than new possibilities?
  9. Do you really believe that “the sky’s the limit”?
  10. Do you spend more of your time thinking about obstacles than outcomes?
  11. Are you naturally good at reaching out to people and getting them excited about your ideas?
  12. When things go wrong, do you look for someone to save you?
  13. Do people want to work with you because of your confidence and natural energy?
  14. Are you often overwhelmed with feelings of helplessness?
  15. When you face an obstacle, are you confident that you can find a way around it?
  16. Do you regard optimistic people as simple-minded or naïve?
  17. Do you take charge of setbacks by looking for allies and new information?
  18. Do the things you fear loom so large that it’s difficult to do anything?
  19. Are you constantly building on your past successes?
  20. Do you feel afraid much of the time?
  21. Can you look at a problem or a situation from different perspectives, even put yourself in the shoes of another person to see things with an open mind?
  22. Do you consider asking for help a sign of weakness?

Count up your answers.  If you answered “yes” to the odd-numbered questions most of the time, you tend toward an optimistic outlook.  If the even-numbered questions got most of your “yes” answers, you’re likely to be stuck in negative thinking.

Here’s a challenge—if you scored high for pessimistic thinking, make an effort each day for one week to reframe just one negative thought into a helpful, more positive idea.  Gradually increase your quota day by day, and as you practice, reframing negatives will get easier and you’ll love the way positive thinking feels!

 

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“Feed Your Mind—And the Rest Will Follow”

by Faith Monson
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Is your mind on a junk food diet?

What you choose to feed your mind on plays a big role in whether your views are optimistic or pessimistic.  Pay attention to the books you read, the TV shows you watch, and the people whose company you keep.  Do they focus on fear, outrage and negativity, or do they express curiosity and optimism about what is possible?  Begin to shift your perspective by intentionally choosing to consume books and TV shows that focus on positive themes, and replace your negative friends with people who embrace more optimistic thinking.

Negative thinking usually also includes negative self-talk.  Whether you’ve incorporated the memory of a negative parent, teacher, boss or significant other, pay attention to how you talk to yourself.  Do you often put yourself down, berate yourself for mistakes, and tell yourself that bad things are likely to happen?  Change your mental “channel” and catch yourself when you go negative.  Intentionally encourage yourself, learn from mistakes and then forgive yourself and move on, and focus on positive outcomes.

It takes effort and awareness to change from being a negative thinker to a positive thinker, but the result is well worth it in reduced stress, a greater feeling of well-being, a more pleasant personality that attracts others, and the ability to see possibilities you never glimpsed before.  Give it a go and see what happens!

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Positive or Negative—Your Choice

by Faith Monson
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Imagine two people beginning the same job or starting the same kind of company, identical in every way, with the only difference that one person has a positive outlook and the other has a negative attitude.  Who would you bet on to succeed?

Attitude is a bigger determinant of success than talent, intelligence and wealth.  As the saying goes, “Whether you believe you can, or whether you believe you can’t, you’re right.”  The good news is that you can choose your attitude.

“Positive” doesn’t mean unrealistic, nor does acknowledging real obstacles make one “negative.”  I’m talking about an overall world view, one that sees possibilities for success, and the other that dwells on reasons for failure.

Most people who think in negative terms aren’t aware that they naturally focus on why something can’t work.  That’s because these people usually learned their negativity from their family, and never questioned a perspective that is overly focused on what’s wrong instead of looking for what is going well.

While it’s important to be informed, our 24-hour news cycle can send anyone into a pessimistic spiral with its unrelenting focus on threatening situations.  News channels focus on fear because it draws viewers, and in doing so often hype risk far beyond probability.  You can take a first step toward a more positive outlook by limiting how much time each day you spend reading news or tuning in to news or political channels.

Give this a try for just one week and see how different your thinking becomes when you surround yourself with positive input!

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When a Client Goes AWOL

by Faith Monson
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How do you handle the client who seems to go missing in the middle of a project—when you need crucial information to stay on track?

Managing an AWOL client is a lot like handling an absentee boss.  It requires finesse, empowered thinking and a little bit of chutzpah to pull it off, but the end result is a successful project, and less stress for everyone.  Here are some tips for making it work

#1—Get a surrogate.  Sometimes circumstances beyond the client’s control hijack the schedule and require immediate attention.  If your client is truly unavailable, ask for a surrogate to be assigned to keep things moving.

#2—Build in a window of availability.  When you’re initially discussing price and other details, let the client know what the window of time is for their project, and be sure they understand that missing deadlines on their end for reviewing drafts, providing input and other essentials may cause their project to experience delays by being bumped behind projects with complete information.  Make sure this is explicit in any deadlines promised.

#3—Ask the client up-front about how best to connect and any upcoming schedule challenges.  Find out what’s on your client’s calendar: travel, conflicting projects, other deadlines, visits by top corporate brass, etc.  Plan your deadlines around those problems, aiming for the “dead spots” when the client may be more available.

#4—Make it easy to respond.  Frame as many questions in a “yes/no” framework as you can, avoiding open-ended questions that take longer to answer.  Ask them to confirm your understanding rather than explain—again, easier to say “yes” if you’re on track.

While these steps will help manage a time-challenged client, they won’t work in every case.  Some clients are poor time managers, hopelessly overwhelmed, or have difficulty staying focused.  In those cases, be polite and firm, do your best to keep things moving forward, and decide whether the hassle is worth it if a repeat project is offered—or quote a higher price with a built-in “aggravation premium” into the pricing.

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Handling the Absentee Client-Manager

by Faith Monson
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Have you ever landed a client who initiates a project and then goes missing?  Phone calls and emails go unanswered along with vital questions, and meanwhile, deadlines loom.  The fate of the project—and your reputation—hang in the balance.

Hang in there.  There’s a better way.   Here are four suggestions for keeping a disappearing client from derailing the project.

#1—Make sure you are paid in advance.  Nothing motivates like money already spent to keep a client’s attention on the next steps.  If you can’t arrange to be paid in full, create a document up front detailing project milestones and payments due, and make sure to include specifics on exactly what is due and from whom for each milestone.

#2—Take the initiative.  Set up the phone calls, generate the questions, and remind the client that you’re unable to move forward without their essential input.  If email doesn’t seem to work, arrange a phone call and interview the client to get what you need.  Leave voice mail, and enlist the aid of the secretary or receptionist in hunting down the errant client.  Gather as much information up-front as possible.

#3—Play to their needs.  Your client wants the project completed by a certain date, so emphasize how getting back to you quickly will enable you to create the most complete product with time for them to review before the deadline.

#4—Know your client.  If you’ve worked with this person before and time-management was an issue, make sure you specify the impact of rush charges so he or she has a bottom-line reason to keep you on schedule.

Most clients mean to stay on schedule, but conflicting obligations pull them off track.  Do your best to proactively manage the situation and win their gratitude and repeat business by keeping the project humming along!

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Protect Your Brand: Easy Hands-On Ways to Manage Your Online Reputation

By Gail Z. Martin

I’ve talked about the networking value of recommendations on LinkedIn.  Gathering online recommendations via LinkedIn is also a way to solidify your online branding and actively manage your reputation.  Don’t be shy about asking former co-workers, bosses, colleagues and clients to provide a recommendation if you had a positive working experience with them.  That’s part of the LinkedIn culture.  You’ll want to make sure you have plenty of recommendations for your current role, but you may want to also actively seek out recommendations for prior roles to bolster your credibility and show the depth of your expertise.

Naymz.com is similar in some ways to LinkedIn (extensive profile, forums, online networking), but it goes further to help you actively manage your brand and reputation.  Naymz has what it calls a “RepScore Ecosystem” where you aren’t just asking for a recommendation from former colleagues and clients; you’re asking for them to provide anonymous feedback on your honesty and ethics.  Naymz also has its own “Reputation Monitor” to provide you with yet another stream of information regarding what’s been said about you online.  Naymz also lets you know when your profile has been visited, although it does not tell you who checked you out.

What happens when a negative comment is posted on a ratings site and you can’t get it removed or retracted, but it’s not serious enough to sue for defamation?  One tactic is to make the comment more difficult to find by increasing the searchability of other, more positive content.  The Internet favors recent and highly targeted information, rewarding it by pushing it to the top of the search results.  This pushes older content off the first pages of results, and few searchers bother to go more than one or two pages deep.

How do you do this?  One tactic is to ask your clients and professional friends to add ratings of their own (you don’t have to disclose the reason behind your timing for the request).  You can spiff up your Search Engine Optimization (SEO) on your most relevant sites, like your home page and your blog, assuring that they jump to the top of the search results.  Or, you can hire a PR agency or reputation management firm to make positive posts on your behalf on a large enough number of sites that the sheer volume of new positive mentions pushes old copy off the first page of search results.

Use this last tactic (hired guns) with caution.  Mobilizing actual clients, friends and even family to post genuine testimonials or positive reviews is still authentic and organic, even if you reminded them to do so.  (Never offer rewards in exchange for positive comments.)  Hiring people to manufacture testimonials is unethical, and you’ll be found out eventually, which will send your online reputation plummeting.  If you do decide to use a publicist, a better tactic would be to post a wealth of factual, but positive, information (such as verifiable high satisfaction ratings or award announcements) or repeat testimonials or positive reviews from legitimate clients and reviewers.  Just creating a blizzard of new, positive, highly relevant and keyword-optimized informative posts can go far to push down a negative review.

Yet another reputation management tactic involves making it difficult for anyone to create a profile or Web site using your name or products by claiming them yourself.  Some people make it a practice to buy up all of the domain names available for their own name or their products, such as the .biz, .tv and other domain suffixes.  This keeps cyber-squatters from purchasing these domains and attempting to sell them back to you later at an inflated cost, or using them to create fake sites purporting to be from you.  If you consider this tactic, remember that you’ll have to pay domain registration fees annually, so buying up dozens of URLs that you never intend to use can get expensive.

If you don’t have the time to actively monitor and manage your reputation, there are companies that will do it for you.  Some of these specialize in particular industries, such as hospitality or construction, while others serve a variety of business types.  Services range from monitoring and reporting to assistance in handling complaints or dealing with malicious comments.  Fees vary according to the services provided.  If you decide to use a monitoring and response agency, do your homework before making a commitment, and check out the reputation of the company online before hiring them to work on your behalf.  Some reputation management companies have been caught using unethical strong arm techniques against people who have posted legitimate complaints that were well within their constitutional rights.  There’s a big different between hiring someone to help you keep an eye on what’s being said and employing cyber goons to intimidate or harass consumers who have merely stated their opinions.      The best way to protect your online reputation is to always deal ethically, both online and offline.  Keep your word, don’t overly hype your products, and deliver what you promise.  If something goes wrong, do everything you can to make the situation right.  You’re far better off putting effort into delighting customers and running a clean operation than to invest resources into cleaning up avoidable messes or attempting a cover-up.  Nothing stays hidden for long in today’s online society.  Honesty (and vigilance) are your best online reputation management tools.

Excerpted from 30 Days to Virtual Productivity Success by Gail Z. Martin

 

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Advocate for Your Success

by Faith Monson
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Sometimes ineffective bosses mean well but have difficulty creating the structure necessary to succeed. You can step into the gap and manage the situation without stepping on your boss’s toes, creating success for both of you.

Here are a couple of tips to get you started:

Don’t wait for the boss to make the first move. Make an appointment to meet in-person with your boss, and have a specific agenda so you are both clear on what you want to discuss and what take-aways you need to leave with.  Role-play the meeting with a coach or trusted friend so you aren’t nervous.

Be smart about being patient. If your boss says getting resolution will take time, find out more about the process and set a time for an update or completion date.  You’ll feel empowered if things aren’t left open-ended, and it gives you a time-frame to follow-up.

By learning how to be your own best advocate, you can guide your boss through the required steps to create the outcome you need!

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Online Reputation Basics: Manage Your Brand and Reputation in a Google World

By Gail Z. Martin

You’ve created an online presence for yourself via your Web site, Facebook and LinkedIn pages, blog, Twitter feed and other Internet activity.  This presence becomes part of your personal and professional branding, which is why it’s so important that everything you post online is consistent with the professional image you want to project.  Yet at the same time, other people are free to tag you in photos, mention you in their blogs and Facebook posts, refer to your company and products in articles and reviews, or re-tweet your Twitter content.  You control what you post yourself, but how can you possibly track everything posted by others, including people you’ve never met?

Google Alerts is a first line of defense.  It’s a free tool that enables you to track keywords any time they show up on the Internet, and those keywords should include your name, company name and product names.  Any time your keywords are used, Google Alerts sends you a report which includes a link so you can see for yourself.  It’s not perfect; I’ve found it to work well for content on blogs and Web sites and less so for content on Facebook and other social media sites, but it still snags a tremendous amount of information and is useful as a basic reputation management tool.

SocialMention.com is also valuable as a reputation management tool.  Social Mention fills the holes left by Google Alerts by focusing specifically on social media, and covers an impressive variety of site types.  While no program will capture everything, Google Alerts and Social Mention used together should give you a very comprehensive picture of what the market is saying about you (and how much they’re talking about you).

If you’ve been online very long, you’ve discovered that lots of people have a name that is the same or very similar to yours (and perhaps to your company or products).  One way inaccurate information finds its way into the Internet data stream is via mistaken or confused identity.  Most of the time, these mistakes are honestly made, and can be cleared up with an email or a clarifying post.  If you find that you’re frequently being confused with a particular person or company, you may want to add a note in your Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) stating who you’re not.

People in the public eye (which includes prominent business people as well as writers, speakers, and educators) may sometimes be the victim of pranksters who set up unauthorized sites to detour legitimate Web traffic, make a negative statement, or just cause havoc.  This is especially easy to do in social media, and the result can be a site purporting to be written by you that is making statements you would never make, statements that could be damaging to your brand and reputation.

One way to assure that people are finding the real you is to use a site like Zoolit.com provides a landing page that shares all your sites: social media, Web sites, blogs, etc.  Using a landing page like Zoolit enables you to give readers a way to verify whether or not a site that purports to be from you is really yours.

Excerpted from 30 Days to Virtual Productivity Success by Gail Z. Martin

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How to be Your Own Best Advocate

by Faith Monson
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In the workplace, it’s not uncommon to find yourself without a mentor or champion.  In those sink-or-swim times, knowing how to be your own best advocate can be the difference between success and failure.

Being your advocate doesn’t mean you brag about your accomplishments or force yourself on other people.  Rather, it means you have a realistically positive sense of your own worth to the organization and the value you bring to the game.  Based on that competency and contribution, you have an innate sense of self-worth that makes you willing to speak up on your own behalf and take action to help yourself out of a tough situation.

Here are two tips on how to be your own best advocate:

#1: Do your homework BEFORE you communicate with your boss via email, phone or in person so you know as much (or preferably more) about the situation than your boss does.  This will make you confident, and show your boss that you are serious about results.

#2: Identify what you want to find out/get settled from your interaction with your boss.  If you need help being concise, bounce your ideas off a coach or trusted friend so you can ask for exactly what you need.

People who sit back hoping to be saved when they’re in a jam are often disappointed.  Avoid disappointment by stepping in and being proactive, and see the difference it makes!

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Online Reputation Protection: 4 Reasons to Care What Google Says About Your Business

By Gail Z. Martin

Productivity takes a hit if you have to spend time cleaning up a mess.  The bigger the mess, the more time gets wasted on clean-up.  Needless to say, preventing or containing messes can boost productivity and give you peace of mind, which enables you to keep your focus on your top priorities.

That’s why it’s so important to know what’s being said about you and your company online, and who’s saying it.  “Reputation management” refers to being aware of what is being said about you online so that you can work to remove inaccurate or defamatory content, respond to legitimate complaints, and capture positive comments and testimonials.  The term can also refer to techniques to reduce the impact of unfavorable content via search engine optimization techniques.

Let’s be clear: If you’ve done something unethical or have shoddy business practices, you’re better off cleaning up your act and making restitution than trying to suppress legitimate negative comments.  And as discussed in the chapter on online directories, other people have a right to their opinions and to speaking those opinions online. They aren’t required to like your products and they may say so publicly.  Reputation management should never be seen as a way to cover up bad business practices.

That said, it is important to understand how you and your company are viewed in the marketplace so that you can make course corrections as needed or reap the benefits of glowing reviews.  And, inevitably, incorrect information will make its way online, so it’s also important to have a way to become aware of erroneous content and straighten out misunderstandings.  We perform all of these tasks daily in the real world, without really thinking about it.  Reputation management is just the online equivalent of staying plugged into the grapevine to see what others are saying.

Excerpted from 30 Days to Virtual Productivity Success by Gail Z. Martin

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